Love is Not Self-Seeking
Love is not self-seeking. We all have basic needs the body requires. Outside of that, what are those needs? Is it not one’s responsibility or need to seek themselves and the true nature of Heart? It is your desire and need to be connected with your True Nature. And when we are not, we go seeking. When we are lost, we search. We search and use all kinds of things to fill the absence of Self. When you are connected to Love and reside in Love, there is no need to seek out “self.” We have a need to find our Self. When we find Love, our needs are met because We have all We need. You have You – and the Love of You – and are able to turn your attention towards others. Love is giving. Love is serving. We are able to recognize what we have and feel the desire to give and to serve. Ego takes. When we identify with little “self,” we are identifying with ego. Selfish is ego’s needs. Ego does not view Self or others. Ego is void, a bottomless pit you cannot fill. Everything and everyone around you becomes a thing to put in the void. Ego seeks to use things and others. We all have a desire to fill our needs. The feeling of discontent can serve a biological purpose, letting us know the body needs adequate nutrition, shelter, and protection by joining a group of people. We may even find discontent with our thoughts and behaviors towards others when we recognize a desire to shift towards being positive. Discontent we identify with “self” is when no thing is ever good enough. You may desire a better house, a better job, or better friends. But being content with the way things are in the present moments allows us to be grateful for what we have, even when we seek improvement. Even when we desire to shift towards positivity, we are grateful in the moment, being able to recognize the ability to grow. True Self doesn’t need things or others to fill a void. Love has no void. Love is content with Self. When you know your True Nature, Love, you have found Self. Find Love. Be Love.
Love Does Not Dishonor
To Love is to honor, having regard and respect for the identity and sanctity of a person and experience. Everyone and every experience has value, one way or another. The challenges we encounter serve as excellent teachers, the lessons we learn teach us more about the world around us and ourselves. When we no longer seek the approval of others, we are able to admire the value of others because we recognize our own value. When we respect ourselves, we know how to respect others. When we recognize the value we are born with, we have the choice to act in accordance to our beliefs. Much in the way we honor and respect promises and contracts, when we believe they are valuable, our thoughts are centered on honoring that contract and promise. By honoring ourselves and others, we build a foundation of trust. When a person dishonors another, whether through thoughts, speech, and actions, it is because they hold no honor in their thoughts, speech, and actions. Dishonor brings others and brings ourselves to a place of guilt and shame. When we dishonor, we are actually locking ourselves in The Pillory. When we honor, we uphold that which we value. If you believe someone has value, you’ll honor them. If you believe you have value, you’ll honor your Self. There is no place for guilt and shame when we value ourselves and others. The honorable person doesn’t seek dishonoring others. Honor Self. Honor Love. Be Love.
Love is Not Proud
Love is not proud. Pride becomes an issue when ego starts feeding on it, inflating opinion of “self” and deflating the opinion you have of others. This is associated with a sense or feeling of intrinsic superiority. If you achieve something, instead of being happy and grateful, you may become arrogant. You stop seeing others for who They Are and believe you are “the one and only,” an island unto yourself, cutting off everyone because no one deserves to be near or receive “your radiance.” It’s as if the people around you are offshore on boats, unable to drop anchor. They are allowed to view your splendor, but no one is allowed to step foot on the island. Love is not concerned with ego, the little “self.” Love is Self. When you are connected to the nature of Love, you find yourself in a place of Gratitude, finding gratitude for all things that come your way. You may work really hard to accomplish certain goals in this lifetime. But a place of Gratitude does not align with being vain. “Pride comes before the fall.” Pride is not strength. It causes us to stumble on our false image of “self” and enlarged ego. If you are full of pride, you cannot receive Love because there is no room for Love. Pride can cause us to cut ourselves off from Loving and receiving Love. And perhaps one of the worst things Pride does is it blinds us from Truth. Pride keeps you from reaching out, and pride keeps you from acknowledging others, the pain they feel and the pain you cause yourself when you decide no one, not even yourself, is deserving of forgiveness. When we refuse to forgive others, we withhold forgiveness from ourselves, keeping ourselves and others in bondage. Pride seeks to protect “self image.” The ego wants to be right and prove others wrong. Pride seeks to punish others for their “wrong doing.” Humility seeks understanding and reconciliation. Humility forgives, even when forgiveness isn’t given. “Grace is given to the humble.” In humility, you receive Love because you have room to receive and are grateful for all that you receive and have. Humility is not weak. Being humble keeps you grounded in the reality that we all come from the same Source. That Source is Love. Humility recognizes that the work, the work of your Being, the transformation is not done. There is much to do and learn. With humility, there is room to grow. Pride seeks to put others down. Humility seeks to lift others up. Pride refuses to reach out. Humility accepts what is given. Accept Love. Be Love
Love Does Not Boast
Love does not boast. To boast is to excessively speak with pride of one’s “self.” Confidence is quiet. Insecurity is loud. The little “self,” ego, is insecure. If you are secure in Self, there is no need to boast. People will recognize You or they won’t. If you are secure in Love, Love will guide your thoughts and actions without the need to draw attention to what you are doing. Love does not seek attention. Love gives freely with no expectation of recognition. When you celebrate an event or an accomplishment, the intent is to share your life with others. Boasting is not celebrating with others. Boasting is you celebrating your “self.” Celebrating shares the light of joy with everyone. Boasting is keeping the light on your “self,” the insecurity of being out-shined by others. Share joy. Be confident. Be Love.
Love is Not Envy
Love is not envy. If you are connected to Love within yourself, there is no room for envy. You are in a place of gratitude for all that is in your life. The happiness that flows from Love and Gratitude fills you to the point that you feel no lack. That feeling of lacking or inadequacy causes you to look outside of Love and Gratitude, and you begin to long for the gifts and blessings of others. You may project your feelings of inadequacy towards those you “deem undeserving.” There is nothing to envy when you know You have all You need. When you are full of Love, you are free to be happy for others. You are free to share your unique gifts of Love with others because Love sets you free. Find Love within. Find Gratitude. Be Happy. Be Love.
Love is Kind
Love is kind. Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Showing kindness to others is when your Love recognizes the Love in another, that we are all intrinsically valuable, capable of Love and deserving Love. You see others for who They Are. You are free to Love and Love generously. Your thoughts are in tune with your Love and the Love of others. Kindness is treating others and the world around you with the Love you would desire to connect with within. You “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” You act in accordance to the Love that is part of Your Being. You don’t have to befriend everyone. You are free to gift friendship. Yet sometimes, we allow the pain in our lives to cause us to fear generosity, to not consider the Truth of the way things are. We have experienced pain. When we believe others do not deserve our Love, is it because we are mirroring the pain we connect with? Do we not deserve Love? If we listen to the painful lie that says, “You see, they rejected you. They cannot love you. You are not worth loving,” how do we behave in kind? The act of friendliness towards others is recognizing and believing that They really are not our foe. When you treat someone as if they are, you believe they are the source and cause of harm and your pain. They are an enemy to oppose. But when you separate yourself from the pain you feel or the pain someone projects, you are no longer in bondage to the emotions you feel and the emotions of others. The pain you carry, the burden, is no longer there when you release it. You are free to connect to your Love rather than the pain. When you are connected to the Love of your Being, you feel fulfilled. That filling allows us to to be generous towards others. The Love that fills You will guide You in your thoughts. Considerate acts come from Loving thoughts. The acts of friendship, generosity, and considerateness come from a Heart that is free and full to Love. When you Love, you give freely. There is no expectation because you already have all you need. Be kind to your Self and be kind to Others. Be Love.
Love is patient.
Love is patient. Be patient with those you think or believe have “wronged” you. When someone “wrongs” you, they are acting through their pain, unable to see past it. They are unaware of the cycle of energy, what you give, you receive. You reap what you sew. You do not have to participate in a negative cycle. Sometimes, we are unconscious of our True Nature, that is Love. The “wrong” is when you identify with “it.” You are not their pain. You are not your pain. Be patient with yourself and what you feel. Don’t react to your pain or someone else’s pain. Those are feelings that come and go. The reaction to bodily pain serves a biological purpose, to alert us that something is causing bodily harm, to cause us to react to that thing. Emotional pain can become so strong and persistent that it can manifest bodily pain. Be aware of what you feel, pause to gain understanding of what you feel and where it comes from, and respond through Love. The little “self,” ego, is not concerned with the value of time. It doesn’t value another’s time, and it doesn’t value your time. Love appreciates the time you need and give and the time others need and give. Love isn’t rash or hasty or anxious. Love where you are on your journey. Love where others are on their journey. Respond with Love. Be patient. Be Love.