Love Keeps No Record of Wrongs
Memory serves to remind us of the lessons learned. When we experience life lessons, we gain knowledge of how the world around us operates. When we put into practice the knowledge we’ve gained, that is when we gain wisdom. When we know our Self, we are wise. When we keep a record, we do it with an intention of going back and revisiting the things recorded. The list of “wrongs” we hang onto, what purpose does it serve? We may forget the things people do and say, but it’s hard to forget the way we felt when we feel we were wronged. Loving doesn’t mean to be forgetful. It means letting go of what holds you to the past. Everyone has a past. Everyone has history. Everyone has a story. But you are none of those things. When we cling to the record, we cling to past events, the past hurts. Are we afraid to let go of the record? Does holding on to the past make us feel we are in control? Or do we feel stuck in a prison, a moment in time that you and the person who hurt you are frozen in. If you let it go and move on, the hurts you felt no longer need your keeping. The act of forgiveness frees you from remaining in a state of pain. The act of forgiveness frees you to see the other in a different Light, no longer held to the image you kept them in. The act of Love allows you to recognize there is no need to keep record of “wrongs.” Love becomes your reality, your present moment to reside in. Love becomes the reality you live. Keep Love. Be Love.
Love is Not Easily Angered
The anger we feel comes from pain. When we believe we have been “wronged,” when we’ve identified with the projection of someone’s pain, we may become angry. Being slow to anger is when you pause before the height of emotion. What do you recognize during the pause? When you ask yourself why you are angry, you begin the process of understanding where it comes from. Anger is a response to your belief that there is a call to action, to identify and defend against a real threat. What do we do when we feel threatened? We may defend ourselves. We may run away. And sometimes, we may preemptively strike to disarm a perceived threat. How do we recognize a real threat? If we have a sure footing and are on stable ground, we can identify potential or real harm. Being rooted in security, that is – security in Self, the Love you identify with, there is no harm that can be inflicted without you believing that it will. If you believe someone will cause you pain, they will. If you know that they won’t without you allowing it, they can’t. Pain is a real thing we allow ourselves to be controlled by. We become victims to pain. Love is a protective force that allows us to move beyond anger to understanding. You cannot harbor anger if you are secure in Love. And if you are viewing the world from a position of Love, the fear of emotional pain is removed, and instead of reacting to the pain, you respond. Respond from the position of Love. Be Love.
Love is Not Self-Seeking
Love is not self-seeking. We all have basic needs the body requires. Outside of that, what are those needs? Is it not one’s responsibility or need to seek themselves and the true nature of Heart? It is your desire and need to be connected with your True Nature. And when we are not, we go seeking. When we are lost, we search. We search and use all kinds of things to fill the absence of Self. When you are connected to Love and reside in Love, there is no need to seek out “self.” We have a need to find our Self. When we find Love, our needs are met because We have all We need. You have You – and the Love of You – and are able to turn your attention towards others. Love is giving. Love is serving. We are able to recognize what we have and feel the desire to give and to serve. Ego takes. When we identify with little “self,” we are identifying with ego. Selfish is ego’s needs. Ego does not view Self or others. Ego is void, a bottomless pit you cannot fill. Everything and everyone around you becomes a thing to put in the void. Ego seeks to use things and others. We all have a desire to fill our needs. The feeling of discontent can serve a biological purpose, letting us know the body needs adequate nutrition, shelter, and protection by joining a group of people. We may even find discontent with our thoughts and behaviors towards others when we recognize a desire to shift towards being positive. Discontent we identify with “self” is when no thing is ever good enough. You may desire a better house, a better job, or better friends. But being content with the way things are in the present moments allows us to be grateful for what we have, even when we seek improvement. Even when we desire to shift towards positivity, we are grateful in the moment, being able to recognize the ability to grow. True Self doesn’t need things or others to fill a void. Love has no void. Love is content with Self. When you know your True Nature, Love, you have found Self. Find Love. Be Love.
Love Does Not Dishonor
To Love is to honor, having regard and respect for the identity and sanctity of a person and experience. Everyone and every experience has value, one way or another. The challenges we encounter serve as excellent teachers, the lessons we learn teach us more about the world around us and ourselves. When we no longer seek the approval of others, we are able to admire the value of others because we recognize our own value. When we respect ourselves, we know how to respect others. When we recognize the value we are born with, we have the choice to act in accordance to our beliefs. Much in the way we honor and respect promises and contracts, when we believe they are valuable, our thoughts are centered on honoring that contract and promise. By honoring ourselves and others, we build a foundation of trust. When a person dishonors another, whether through thoughts, speech, and actions, it is because they hold no honor in their thoughts, speech, and actions. Dishonor brings others and brings ourselves to a place of guilt and shame. When we dishonor, we are actually locking ourselves in The Pillory. When we honor, we uphold that which we value. If you believe someone has value, you’ll honor them. If you believe you have value, you’ll honor your Self. There is no place for guilt and shame when we value ourselves and others. The honorable person doesn’t seek dishonoring others. Honor Self. Honor Love. Be Love.
Love is Not Proud
Love is not proud. Pride becomes an issue when ego starts feeding on it, inflating opinion of “self” and deflating the opinion you have of others. This is associated with a sense or feeling of intrinsic superiority. If you achieve something, instead of being happy and grateful, you may become arrogant. You stop seeing others for who They Are and believe you are “the one and only,” an island unto yourself, cutting off everyone because no one deserves to be near or receive “your radiance.” It’s as if the people around you are offshore on boats, unable to drop anchor. They are allowed to view your splendor, but no one is allowed to step foot on the island. Love is not concerned with ego, the little “self.” Love is Self. When you are connected to the nature of Love, you find yourself in a place of Gratitude, finding gratitude for all things that come your way. You may work really hard to accomplish certain goals in this lifetime. But a place of Gratitude does not align with being vain. “Pride comes before the fall.” Pride is not strength. It causes us to stumble on our false image of “self” and enlarged ego. If you are full of pride, you cannot receive Love because there is no room for Love. Pride can cause us to cut ourselves off from Loving and receiving Love. And perhaps one of the worst things Pride does is it blinds us from Truth. Pride keeps you from reaching out, and pride keeps you from acknowledging others, the pain they feel and the pain you cause yourself when you decide no one, not even yourself, is deserving of forgiveness. When we refuse to forgive others, we withhold forgiveness from ourselves, keeping ourselves and others in bondage. Pride seeks to protect “self image.” The ego wants to be right and prove others wrong. Pride seeks to punish others for their “wrong doing.” Humility seeks understanding and reconciliation. Humility forgives, even when forgiveness isn’t given. “Grace is given to the humble.” In humility, you receive Love because you have room to receive and are grateful for all that you receive and have. Humility is not weak. Being humble keeps you grounded in the reality that we all come from the same Source. That Source is Love. Humility recognizes that the work, the work of your Being, the transformation is not done. There is much to do and learn. With humility, there is room to grow. Pride seeks to put others down. Humility seeks to lift others up. Pride refuses to reach out. Humility accepts what is given. Accept Love. Be Love
Love Does Not Boast
Love does not boast. To boast is to excessively speak with pride of one’s “self.” Confidence is quiet. Insecurity is loud. The little “self,” ego, is insecure. If you are secure in Self, there is no need to boast. People will recognize You or they won’t. If you are secure in Love, Love will guide your thoughts and actions without the need to draw attention to what you are doing. Love does not seek attention. Love gives freely with no expectation of recognition. When you celebrate an event or an accomplishment, the intent is to share your life with others. Boasting is not celebrating with others. Boasting is you celebrating your “self.” Celebrating shares the light of joy with everyone. Boasting is keeping the light on your “self,” the insecurity of being out-shined by others. Share joy. Be confident. Be Love.
Love is Not Envy
Love is not envy. If you are connected to Love within yourself, there is no room for envy. You are in a place of gratitude for all that is in your life. The happiness that flows from Love and Gratitude fills you to the point that you feel no lack. That feeling of lacking or inadequacy causes you to look outside of Love and Gratitude, and you begin to long for the gifts and blessings of others. You may project your feelings of inadequacy towards those you “deem undeserving.” There is nothing to envy when you know You have all You need. When you are full of Love, you are free to be happy for others. You are free to share your unique gifts of Love with others because Love sets you free. Find Love within. Find Gratitude. Be Happy. Be Love.